People often look at happy images of marriages on social media and say, “I want that,” but they don’t really know what “that” is. They think it’s the romantic vacations and long walks, but marriage is much more complicated than that. The real secret to a great marriage goes far deeper than just a hashtag. This series will define five goals that will enable couples to keep their focus on the right path for their marriage. This week’s goal is all about setting healthy boundaries so that our relationships can thrive and grow like they’re supposed to.
In this sermon, Pastor Tim goes through Ephesians 5:15-18 to explain the importance of setting boundaries and then goes on to list a few examples of boundaries we should set.
15 Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,16 making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. 18 And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit,ephesians 5:15-18
Then Pastor Tim goes through the 9 Steps to fixing relationship problems. You can also find this in the book entitled “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
- Inventory the symptoms (make a list of the symptoms)
- Identify the specific boundary problem.
- Find the origins of the conflict.
- Take in the good.
- Say no to the bad.
- Become proactive.
- Learn to love in freedom and responsibility.
The secret ingredient to setting boundaries in our relationships is this: